Monday, June 6, 2011
Marvellous Monday
Monday, May 9, 2011
Misc. Monday-Mother's Day Weekend
Monday, May 2, 2011
Miscellaneous Monday
and I'm so proud of myself that I made it.
I mentioned on Saturday that I'm trying out a blog schedule, so today is Miscellaneous Monday.
I have a lot to share so bare with me.
Friday Night
I did my usual routine, watching tv and reading.
7.) If you condition first and then shampoo, you'll reduce dryness
My mom and dad took Nehemiah over night so me and the bestie decided to have a girl's night out.
I didn't want to go anywhere or do anything I would later have to repent for,
so we decided to try out a comedy club or a sports bar.
Well...apparently we don't have many comedy clubs within our radius,
so that idea was out.
We decided to get cute and try out the sports bars we found online.
OMG
Every place we attempted to try out was a bust.
After driving all over the place we decided it was time to come back home.
On the way home I made a discovery,
I have no identity outside of motherhood.
My bestie felt the same way.
When it comes to planning activities for our kids we have no issues finding things to do.
When we have a night away from our kids, we don't know what to do.
I missed Nehemiah, and my bestie missed her daughter.
Maybe we have these issues because we're single mothers.
So this poses the question,
How do I establish an identity that doesn't revolve around
runny noses, preschool, playdates, toys, and pillow pets???
I'm not saying I don't enjoy motherhood, I love being a mommy.
I just need to know how to start living a little bit of my life for me.
Does anyone understand?
Monday, March 28, 2011
Easy Like Sunday Morning…Or Sunday Evening Actually
Monday, March 14, 2011
Grammy
On Friday I woke up with a little tickle in my throat, and by nighttime that tickle turned into a full blown cough. Yep, I caught a cold. So my weekend consisted of sleeping, and then waking up to take cough/sinus meds. I still have the cough this morning, but it's nothing like it was a few days ago.
My Grammy was the type of woman who lived what she preached. She loved Jesus with her entire being. She was the model example of what it means to live a Christian life. My Grammy's strongest attribute was her prayer life. She would spend hours making requests to God on behalf of other people! As a child, I remember hearing the passion in Grammy's voice as she talked to God. She was honest with God, and she went to Him boldly. This is the type of prayer life I long for!
I miss my Grammy a lot, and there are many days I wish I could go to her for advice. But one thing I learned from my Grammy is that I can go directly to God. I can tell Him how I'm feeling and what's concerning me.
I just need to work on making time for God, instead of squeezing Him in when it's convenient! This has really been a challenge for me. It seems there just aren't enough hours in the day.
Monday, March 7, 2011
A Classic Case of the What-If’s
On Saturday night I was doing the usual, you know homework and checking Facebook. From time to time, I check out the selections Facebook offers on the people I may know, so on Saturday I decided to give it a look.
Oh boy, why didn't I just stick to the homework?!
There it was, in plain sight-my ex's profile picture; him and a girl.
For some unknown reason I just sat there, with my mouth hanging open, staring at the picture. And then it started happening, the classic case of the what-if's. What if this was his girlfriend? What if he lied to me and was seeing us both at the same time? What if he dumped me for her? What if he thinks she's prettier than me {clearly this is not even close to being true-I'm just sayin' J}? What if he lied about his job? These stupid questions kept coming to mind, and they plagued me for most of the night. So much so that I started to call him up and scream at him!
I wanted answers to my questions, and damn it I deserved to know the truth! All my logic was pushed aside. I was pissed off, and I needed to know who this chic was and if she was with my boyfriend ex. Luckily, logic alone wasn't enough for me to go off. I needed reinforcement. So I called one of my good friends.
And thank God for good friends who are there for you during your craziest moments. My friend understood how much seeing the picture hurt me. She understood why I was upset. She understood why I felt I deserved answered.
She understood why I needed to leave the situation as is; finished.
After I talked to my friend, I felt better and the what-if's ceased. They haven't come back and I'm glad. As my friend pointed out, calling him would have changed nothing about the situation. His mind is already made up. And so is mine. I need to move on because he apparently has. And if this chic isn't his girlfriend, it still won't change the situation.
Stay Sweet!
T.
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
A Wonderful Time
Sorry I was vacant last week, but I was busy studying for midterms. I took the midterms on Saturday, so I'm praying I did well. Last week was also a little difficult because I didn't sleep well. I was restless, and I just couldn't get my body out of work mode. I slept very well the last few nights, and I hope good sleep continues. Perhaps being tired all the time, without the ability to get rested, is the most frustrating part of Fibromyalgia!
Prior to the breakup I was sleeping extremely well. And even though I'm still hurting, I really think I have finally entered into the healing process. I miss him a lot {which is to be expected}, but I'm starting to remember that single life is okay. I'll survive without the relationship. I may not like being single, but I'll survive. I still find myself wishing he'd call so I could hear his voice, but I don't cry anymore while wishing. I have some friends who suggest that I pick up and start dating again. I don't know if I'm ready for all that yet, but I have to remember that dating doesn't necessarily equal relationship…
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I celebrated my 29th birthday on Sunday, and it was wonderful. I'm so blessed to have many people in my life who love and appreciate me. It was nice being with my family.
I'm sorry this is such a short post, but I'm bombarded with school work, and I'm really struggling to stay awake. Pray for my strength because I'm ready to say good night and it's only 3:36pm!
Stay Sweet!
Thomasina
Monday, August 23, 2010
Weekend Rewind
I'm so proud to say that for the past three nights…NEHEMIAH HAS BEEN SLEEPING IN HIS OWN ROOM!!!! I'm praying that this accomplishment lasts this time. I have no problem admitting that I'm at fault just as much, if not more, to blame for this bedtime catastrophe. There have even been a few instances in which I have gone into his bedroom and carried him back to my room. Reason being, he's my security blanket…okay it's more like I'm a control freak and feel like I have more control over the unknown if Nehemiah is near me {I know, I need to relax}. Yes, I'm a believer and I know full well,
Friday night we had a special meeting at church in regards to some very important changes. A few months ago our beloved pastor went home to be with Jesus, and since then his son has taken over as our pastor. Although our new pastor is not an unknown face to our congregation, getting used to a new leader has become a challenge for me. The death of my pastor was difficult because he had been my pastor for literally my entire life! How do you just let go and automatically fall under the leadership of someone new?
On Friday we became aware of some changes that our new pastor wants to propose, and I just don't know if I can continue to roll with the punches. I love my church, and the members have really grown in faith and dedication to the Lord. We have one goal in common; to make it to Heaven some day. I am the youth leader and I'm also in charge of children's church, but I've been quite stagnant with my youth group responsibilities for various reasons. Now that I have more free time, I want to get back to my youth group duties.
However, I'm torn between staying at the church where I have been my whole life, compared to just packing up and going someplace new. Just like a job, every church will have their own set of unique problems, so I can't run to a new church and expect things to be perfect all the time. I would have to visit other churches in my town to determine where Nehemiah and I would go to worship, and frankly I'm not too keen on that idea. All I know is that I will not make a move without knowing full well that I'm doing what's best for Nehemiah and me. So until that day comes, I will continue seeking God for direction.
Saturday morning I woke up and did some cleaning and laundry. Now, I know most people don't get excited about cleaning and laundry but here's why this is so special. Cleaning used to exhaust me, and my body ached so bad that I just didn't have the stamina to get my house in order. Not to mention tackling the basement stairs while carrying a laundry basket was a nightmare for both my legs and my hands. I haven't carried a laundry basket down to the basement since the end of May {don't worry; my mom took care of the laundry for me because she's a great mommy!}. After the laundry was washed, I was even able to hang some of the clothes on the line so that they could dry outside {one of my efforts in making my household more Green}! I can't wait to tell my occupational therapist about this milestone.
Saturday evening Nehemiah, Raheem {my nephew, in case you forgot}, and I went to the MOPS {mothers of preschoolers} family picnic. My nephew, his girlfriend, and their three-month-old son {whom I just love to pieces} went too. The picnic was to kick off the new year of MOPS, and I wasn't too sure if I was going to attend after receiving the invitation. The MOPS chapter in my town meets at a local church, and I've heard great things about the program but wasn't sure if I wanted to attend. This was mainly because at the time I had so many time constraints, but now that my evenings are pretty open I decided to venture out and try something new. I also wasn't sure if the other parents would treat me differently because I'm a single parent. I only knew two women at the picnic, but I met some awesome mamas who were more than willing to welcome Miah and me. Child care is provided during the meetings, so Miah gets to come to the meetings with me! Meeting other moms is always a wonderful way to build a support network, so I really think this a great opportunity. The first meeting is in a few weeks, so I'll have to post some updates.
Sunday was wet, rainy, and a little cold {I smell fall in the air-and I'm a little excited}. We ate breakfast and then got ready to head out to church. We had an amazing church service, and my soul felt refreshed. When we got back home some of the family came over, so we spent the afternoon hanging out watching movies. Nehemiah and Raheem went outside for a little bit and managed to get mud all over their arms, legs, hands, and back! Then they both proceeded to walk into the house with the mud. I almost blew a gasket! Luckily the mud was more attracted to the boys than to my carpet! Needless to say, days like that remind me of the reason I only have one child! But just as my mom says, "boys will be boys." I say, "thank goodness for washer machines, soap, and water!"
Nehemiah had a rough afternoon, and by evening I had grown tired of the whining and crying. By dinner time I had exhausted myself with redirecting him that I handled a situation simply by giving him a kiss and telling him that I loved him. We both had a much better evening after that. Better, not perfect, but in those crazy moments you really learn how to pick your battles. My friend Lisa and her kids came over for dinner, so Nehemiah was happy to have some more buddies over and his behavior improved dramatically. He ended up falling asleep quite early, so I blame tiredness for his behavior.
Monday, March 8, 2010
Weekend Re-Cap
I will never understand how Monday manages to arrive so quickly each week, but here we are again. This weekend was very productive and I got a lot accomplished. On Saturday, I spent the day doing homework, and then we went to Lisa's for our Saturday night dinner. Yesterday, we went to church, and then I went grocery shopping. Grocery shopping is very difficult because my legs usually hurt, but yesterday my legs did fairly well; I thought. When I woke up this morning, my legs were feeling the strain of yesterday's trip to the grocery store. I feel rested (yayJ), so I am definitely making improvements. Hopefully my legs will get better as the day progresses.
Nehemiah had a great weekend as well. A couple of my nieces and nephews came over to play, so he had a lot of fun. Nehemiah finally started playing the drums again at church; he took a sabbatical because some of the other children ruined his drum set. I was going to get pictures of him playing, but I figured I would be drawing unwanted attention to myself. Nehemiah didn't take a nap yesterday, and he had a really hard time going down for bed last night. This morning he was whining and crying anytime he didn't get his way. When it was time for me to take him over to Nana's, he flipped out because he wanted to play outside in the snow. The snow is melting, so really he wanted to play in the mud. When he has such a rough morning, I feel awful leaving him. At least he gets some love and attention from Nana, so I know he will be okay. I think he and I will do something special when I get home.
Over the weekend, I did some research on running. As you know, I really want to start running. Now that spring is making its way to Western New York, I want to get outside just as much as Nehemiah wants to! I need to begin walking first, then gradually work my way into running. Now, here's my dilemma; will my legs prevent me from walking and running? I was determined to get outside and walk yesterday, but grocery shopping took a toll on me, so I couldn't get outside.
If my body prevents me from exercising, how am I ever supposed to reach my weight loss goals?
Friday, March 5, 2010
Have a Great Weekend
I have a ton of homework and studying to do this weekend, so I won't be posting on Saturday or Sunday. On Wednesday, I started my second class of the session and it looks like it's going to be challenging. So dear friends, have a great weekend and enjoy the sunshine (if you're fortunate to have some). See ya Monday!
Sunday, October 25, 2009
My Weekend
Yesterday was quite a busy day for us. In the morning Nehemiah had to go for his flu shot. He was a bit freaked out about getting a poke, but it did help that Raheem (my nephew) had to get one too. Nehemiah really started to freak out when I had to break the news to him that our regular nurse was no longer there (I found this news out when I was signing Miah in). However, our other trusty nurse was there, so all was good. The boys did awesome with the shots! No tears or screams. The nurse said she had experienced her fair share of freak outs when giving shots. For example, an 11 year old kicked a hole in the wall and had to have 2 people calm him down. Two thumbs up for my boys being soldiers!!!
In the afternoon I had to go to the mall in Rochester to find shoes. I can only wear shoes that have rubber soles or it throws my alignment off, which throws off my balance, which results in swollen knees and bad back pain. I wasn't sure how this trip was going to go seeing that Miah had just gotten a shot, but he was fine. My 7 year old niece spent the weekend with us, so he was happy to have someone in the back seat with him. Not to mention that my 15 and 18 year old nephews joined us (can you tell that my nieces and nephews love their aunt).
After going into about 4 stores and trying on countless pairs of shoes, I was frustrated that I could not find one pair of shoes that didn't hurt my feet. I decided to try one more store before heading back home. We went into Lands End and I found a cute pair of shoes with rubber soles that didn't hurt my feet and didn't look like old lady shoes! I'm quite happy with my purchase, not to mention how well behaved Nehemiah was in each store (maybe the french fries I got from the food court helped!)
Last night we went over to Lisa's for our usual Saturday night dinner. The kids were all playing when all of a sudden Nehemiah started screaming at the top of his lungs. I went to see what happened and it turned out that his finger got pinched in the door. It took a good 10 minutes to calm him down and to get ice on the finger. He was able to move his fingers and the swelling went down with the ice. He does have a blood blister on his nail bed that freaks him out whenever he looks at it. My poor little guy.
So this is the conclusion of my weekend. Oh, I did find Nehemiah a doctor costume for Halloween. He can't wait to go to the Big Top party at his school on Saturday. Also, I received the results from Miah's evaluation and the greatest news, his behavior is normal for a 2 year old! He does qualify for speech and will be starting next week.
Thursday, August 6, 2009
The Good Book and Weekend
Monday, August 3, 2009
Weekend Re-Cap
1.) Went to a new consignment shop, which happens to be just a few blocks away from my house. It's a bit small, but is filled with lots of nostalgia. I discovered an awesome ring for $5.00!
2.) Finished disc 1 for Gossip Girl season 1 (disc 2 should be here Tuesday). So glad Serena and Blair are friends. Hope they stay that way...be sure not to ruin it for me by giving it away!
Saturday:
1.) Worked at the 4H Fair for a few hours. Learned a lot about emergency preparedness. Hope everyone has an emergency kit at home and in the car! It's super important, especially if you have children or animals.
2.) Went to Lisa's for dinner.Had great Riesling White wine and enjoyed some steak.
3.) Got the chance to watch Legally Blonde while Nehemiah played with Raheem, Jake and Claire.
4.)Finally got to talk to Nicole, who is now officially my Georgia Peach. Although she's only been gone a week, it feels much longer.
5.) Received the long awaited notice regarding my loans. This means that I will finally find out what type of Financial Aid package I will be receiving. I was getting a bit anxious because school starts in a month.
Sunday:
1.) Went to church. Nehemiah brought his drum with him and had a great time playing it during worship! He especially loved playing while I sang with the choir.
2.) I woke up not feeling too great, so Nehemiah and I napped together after church.
2.) Read some more of ...

It's such a great book (thanks for recommending it Nic). I'm hoping to finish it this week.
Not a lot of excitement over the weekend, but that was more than welcomed. It was nice to have the chance to rest; this coming up weekend we will be driving to Ohio for a family reunion.
Monday, April 27, 2009
My Weekend
Some times I forget to look back to where God has brought me from. It is not by my own strength that I am where I am today. I realized that I've made some compromises in my walk and I refuse to let it happen again. I cannot hide who I am or doubt what I believe. I am reminded of Peter, who denied Jesus when it counted the most. However, Peter was redeemed and forgiven as am I. I will continue to stress that, "As for me and my household, we will serve the Lord!" ~Joshua 24:14
2.)The weather was fabulous, so I took Nehemiah, Raheem (my nephew), and my two nieces Irisa and Ashanti to the carnival. It was expensive, but the kids loved it! We met up with some family and had a blast. Nehemiah and I got to wear our summer clothes and I finally shaved my legs!
3.) Yesterday we had Sunday dinner at my parent's house and it was great as usual. There's nothing better than spending time with family. I am so blessed.



